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So, Your Parents Are Still Trying To Run Your Life? Parental Influence On Courtship/Dating Analysis of the movie"Meet The Fockers" and The Play "Taming The Shrew" By William Shakespeare.

In the Movie, "Meet The Fockers" and in the play "Taming The Shrew" By William Shakespeare both talk about marriage and who is marrying who. "In Meet The Fockers" Pam Byrnes' parents, Dina and Jack Byrnes want their daughter to date the right man and to make sure of that they interrogate her soon to be husband Greg Focker. Later on in "Meet The Fockers", Pam's family meets Greg's family who is totally different from what they expected. Greg's mother Rozalin Focker and his father Bernie Focker both have a hard time accepting Pam's family also so both families clash and wants their daughter/son not to be together because they cannot get along. In Taming Of The Shrew, Baptista only wants what's best for his daughter Bianca, but easily gives away his older daughter Katherine. Baptista is similar to the parents in the movies emotionally but with different actions taken. Parents want their children to pick a partner who is suited for their life style and how they see things instead of letting their child be happy.

**Quotes From "Taming Of The Shrew"**

(Act 2, Scene 1, 121-148) Pertruchio Signior Baptista, my business asketh haste, And every day I cannot come to woo. You knew my father well, an in him me, Left solely hair to all his lands and goods, Which I have bettered rather than decreased. The tell me, if I get your daughter's love, What dowry shall I have with her to wife?

Baptista After my death, the one half of my lands, And, in possession, twenty thousands crowns.

Pertruchio And, for that dowry, I'll assure her of Her widowhood, be it that she survive me, In all my lands and leases whatsoever. Let specialties be therefore drawn between us, That convenants may be kept on either hand.

Baptista Ay, when the special thing is well obtained, That is, her love, for that is all in all.

This scene tells it's audience how Baptista and Pertruchio came to an agreement when it came to marrying Baptista's daughter Katherine. Baptista is selling his eldest daughter away by using money. Baptista doesn't just give his daughter away to any old guy, he makes sure Pertruchio can support his daughter. Baptista knows how cruel and evil his daughter is, and he always knew that no one would marry her because of that, so he awards Pertruchio for taking her off of his hands.

BAPTISTA

 Content you, gentlemen: I will compound this strife: 'Tis deeds must win the prize; and he of both That can assure my daughter greatest dower Shall have my Bianca's love. Say, Signior Gremio, What can you assure her?

GREMIO

 First, as you know, my house within the city Is richly furnished with plate and gold; Basins and ewers to lave her dainty hands; My hangings all of Tyrian tapestry; In ivory coffers I have stuff'd my crowns; In cypress chests my arras counterpoints, Costly apparel, tents, and canopies, Fine linen, Turkey cushions boss'd with pearl, Valance of Venice gold in needlework, Pewter and brass and all things that belong To house or housekeeping: then, at my farm I have a hundred milch-kine to the pail, Sixscore fat oxen standing in my stalls, And all things answerable to this portion. Myself am struck in years, I must confess; And if I die to-morrow, this is hers, If whilst I live she will be only mine.

TRANIO

 That 'only' came well in. Sir, list to me: I am my father's heir and only son: If I may have your daughter to my wife, I'll leave her houses three or four as good, Within rich Pisa walls, as any one Old Signior Gremio has in Padua; Besides two thousand ducats by the year Of fruitful land, all which shall be her jointure. What, have I pinch'd you, Signior Gremio?

//<span style="font-family: 'Palatino Linotype','Book Antiqua',Palatino,serif; font-size: 120%;">Both of these quotes show the difference between Baptista's relationship with his daughters. He doesn't want them to go away with just any man, but the way he handles the situation is different. Baptista didn't allow Katherine to choose who she is marrying, he did, and the reason for that was because he knew no one would marry someone like her. With Bianca, he made sure the guys were to his likings and also Bianca's. Baptista is making the decisions for his daughters. During this time period, women never made big decisions and marriage back then was considered something men should work out without the approval of women. Baptista's role in this both have to do with being a man and being a father. Who would want their daughter with someone who cannot support her and who treats her horribly? So, he makes sure the men have what they need for a marriage. Baptista being a man, made the decision for Katherine and narrowed it down for Bianca because their decisions did not matter. //

"Meeting The Parents", Father vs. Son-in-Law

"Meeting The Parents", Father vs. Son-in-Law

<span style="color: #000080; font-family: 'Palatino Linotype','Book Antiqua',Palatino,serif; font-size: 130%;">Jack <span style="color: #000080; font-family: 'Palatino Linotype','Book Antiqua',Palatino,serif; font-size: 130%;"> "You know what Greg"

<span style="color: #000080; font-family: 'Palatino Linotype','Book Antiqua',Palatino,serif; font-size: 130%;"> Greg <span style="color: #000080; font-family: 'Palatino Linotype','Book Antiqua',Palatino,serif; font-size: 130%;"> "Yes sir?"

<span style="color: #000080; font-family: 'Palatino Linotype','Book Antiqua',Palatino,serif; font-size: 130%;"> Jack <span style="color: #000080; font-family: 'Palatino Linotype','Book Antiqua',Palatino,serif; font-size: 130%;"> "Do you know what makes a man, the man of a family?"

<span style="color: #000080; font-family: 'Palatino Linotype','Book Antiqua',Palatino,serif; font-size: 130%;"> Greg <span style="color: #000080; font-family: 'Palatino Linotype','Book Antiqua',Palatino,serif; font-size: 130%;"> "Love..um..his love and respect."

<span style="color: #000080; font-family: 'Palatino Linotype','Book Antiqua',Palatino,serif; font-size: 130%;"> Jack <span style="color: #000080; font-family: 'Palatino Linotype','Book Antiqua',Palatino,serif; font-size: 130%;"> "Do you know what lives on through out his family Greg?"

<span style="color: #000080; font-family: 'Palatino Linotype','Book Antiqua',Palatino,serif; font-size: 130%;"> Greg <span style="color: #000080; font-family: 'Palatino Linotype','Book Antiqua',Palatino,serif; font-size: 130%;"> "No sir."

<span style="color: #000080; font-family: 'Palatino Linotype','Book Antiqua',Palatino,serif; font-size: 130%;"> Jack <span style="color: #000080; font-family: 'Palatino Linotype','Book Antiqua',Palatino,serif; font-size: 130%;"> "His legacy. His children lives on and grow up to be what their parents raised to to be. They make decisions based on the teachings of their parents. If you and your family do not fit in with us, then the wedding is OFF!"

These shots shows a conversation between Greg Focker and Jack Byrnes. Jack is talking to Greg about being a man in the family and the expectations he has for his family. He talks about his legacy, and how his teachings made his daughter the way she is today and he don't want any random guy taking his daughter away. During the lie detector test he asked random questions to make sure he isn't the wrong person for his daughter.

"Glad you meet us huh Jack?"



<span style="color: #008080; font-family: 'Palatino Linotype','Book Antiqua',Palatino,serif; font-size: 130%;">"These people cannot be apart of our family, I mean look at them, they're... they're.."

<span style="color: #008080; font-family: 'Palatino Linotype','Book Antiqua',Palatino,serif; font-size: 130%;">"Oh JACK, they're very nice people..."

<span style="color: #008080; font-family: 'Palatino Linotype','Book Antiqua',Palatino,serif; font-size: 130%;">"My daughter cannot marry this guy, she just can't"

<span style="color: #008080; font-family: 'Palatino Linotype','Book Antiqua',Palatino,serif; font-size: 130%;">"Well, if you give them a chance then you will see different. It's not about you being happy, it's about our daughter being happy."

//<span style="font-family: 'Palatino Linotype','Book Antiqua',Palatino,serif; font-size: 110%;">These shots shows exactly how Jack doesn't want his daughter to marry this guy because his family is different from his and because he does not like them, he doesn't want to have to deal with them. He puts his emotions and his thoughts before his daughters because he is the "man". This relates back to Baptista and how he didn't care about how Katherine felt about marrying someone.These scenes are very similar in many ways, but there are some differences. Baptista wants to get rid of his daughters, wants them to be married and happy. But in this movie he wants his "little girl" to be safe and protected and he feels as though, if he can't do it daddy sure can. //

//<span style="color: #000080; font-family: 'Palatino Linotype','Book Antiqua',Palatino,serif; font-size: 110%;"> The parents in "Meet The Fockers" and "Taming The Shrew" both show how parents want to pick out who their child want to date. Parents expect their child to be with the ideal husband that meets their standards. Playing the father role has different responsibilities such as being a father and being the man. Being in control gives them the power and it provides the security of their children. Parents only wants best for their child, and parents always have your best interest at heart. Parents no matter how old you are, will still try to tell you what they think is best for themselves and for you Parents want their children to pick a partner who is suited for their life style and how they see things instead of letting their child be happy. //